1
Who owns or leases the home?
The lease, deposit, right to remain, and responsibility to the landlord should be clear.
Before moving in
Questions to ask before moving in together
Living together changes a relationship even without marriage. Clear expectations about money, household work, and privacy make everyday friction less likely to be interpreted as a lack of love.
2
How are expenses divided?
Equal, proportional to income, or by category—and how furniture and repairs are handled.
3
What are the rules for personal space?
Closed doors, work areas, belongings, phones, and time alone.
4
How is household work divided?
Name specific tasks, frequency, minimum standards, and whether to hire help.
5
How are guests handled?
Notice, overnight visitors, relatives, and both residents’ comfort.
6
Are pets involved?
Expenses, cleaning, medical care, and who keeps the animal after a separation.
7
What does living together mean for the future?
A compatibility trial, a permanent arrangement, or a step toward marriage.
8
What happens after a breakup?
Time to move, return of deposits, shared purchases, and safety without threats or pressure.
How to use these questions
- Write down practical rules before the move.
- Check local tenant rights.
- Revisit the arrangement after the first month.
Answer separately, then compare.
No account is required. Neither person sees the other’s answers before finishing.
Choose a relationship model and compare answersEducational conversation prompts only. They are not a validated psychological test, therapy, legal advice, or a legal agreement.