Articles and discussions
Hard questions. Calm conversations.
No universal answers—only concrete choices worth discussing before they become a conflict. Read, choose your position, and compare expectations privately.
Books about relationshipsCity life and connection
Limited evidenceLove in a big city: why dating can start to feel like a marketplace
Endless options, limited time and financial pressure: what research says about big-city relationships, and when reasonable expectations become transactional.
9 min read
Parenthood and choice
Limited evidenceBeing childfree in a big city
Why people choose life without children, what city living can explain, and how couples can discuss different plans for parenthood.
5 min read
Our story
Why we built Clear About Us: important conversations without pressure
The story behind a private bilingual tool that helps couples compare expectations and prepare for an honest conversation.
5 min read
Money and fairness
Is splitting bills 50/50 fair when incomes are different?
Four practical ways couples can split expenses when one partner earns significantly more.
6 min read
Financial security
Should a stay-at-home spouse have a personal emergency fund?
How couples can discuss a separate security reserve when one spouse steps away from paid work.
7 min read
Debt and transparency
When should you disclose debt to a serious partner?
How to discuss loans, support obligations, taxes, and other debt before marriage or combining finances.
6 min read
Psychology of compatibility
Established evidenceCan science predict whether a couple will stay together?
What relationship research can—and cannot—tell us about compatibility, and why a useful questionnaire should build a conversation map instead of issuing a success score.
8 min read
Psychology of conversation
Established evidenceWhy agreement is not enough: people also need to feel understood
What perceived partner responsiveness means and why the same practical decision can bring a couple closer—or leave one person feeling alone.
8 min read
The future of relationships
Research + forecastWill AI manage couples’ agreements?
Where AI may genuinely help, where assistance turns into control, and why the future is more likely to be a shared editor than a digital judge.
9 min read
The future of marriage · research and forecast
Research + forecastFive-year marriage: the future of commitment or a legal experiment?
Do renewable marriage contracts exist, where is marriage actually heading in developed countries, and what is more likely to change before the law does?
10 min read
Cross-border marriage · facts without accusation
Established evidenceLove, citizenship, and unequal leverage: cross-border marriage in America
What U.S. data say about cross-border couples and which questions deserve answers before a visa, relocation, or financial dependence.
12 min read
Cross-border marriage · rights and misconceptions
Official legal sourcesVAWA in cross-border marriage: protection, process, and myths that harm both partners
What VAWA actually allows, what it does not guarantee, and why immigration leverage, fear of false allegations, and legal myths should not become relationship rules.
10 min read
Attachment and distance
Established evidenceAvoidant Attachment in Relationships: Signs and What Helps
Why an avoidant partner may pull away, how the pursue–withdraw cycle works, and practical ways to discuss space and closeness. Research, not a diagnosis.
9 min read
Relationships in a digital world
Emerging evidenceHow Instagram and Social Media Affect Relationships: The Research
How Instagram comparisons, Reels, phone interruptions, and digital jealousy relate to relationship satisfaction—and boundaries couples can discuss.
10 min read
Personal growth and outside influence
Emerging evidenceRetreat, spiritual practice, or someone else’s control: when “personal growth” changes a relationship
How to distinguish a useful practice from pseudotherapy, a sales funnel, or a high-control group—without attacking spirituality or a partner’s autonomy.
11 min read
Dating and digital choice
Emerging evidenceAre Dating Apps Bad for Relationships? What Research Shows
Research on dating apps, choice overload, and relationship satisfaction: what meeting online changes, what it does not, and when to discuss exclusivity.
10 min read
Engagement, money, and expectations
Official legal sourcesThe wedding is off: should the engagement ring go back?
Engagement ring budgets, the US engagement-to-wedding process, and why returning a ring depends on state law as well as expectations.
7 min read
Marriage, culture, and statistics
Emerging evidence“1% divorce in India, 90% in Portugal”: what the comparison leaves out
Why viral divorce percentages are not comparable, and how culture, independence, and the ability to leave shape marriage.
8 min read
Marriage in the US · money and obligations
Official legal sourcesYour love. Not just your rules: who benefits from legal marriage in the US?
The benefits and risks of legal marriage for men and women in the US: property, taxes, career breaks, retirement rights, and prenups without the winner-versus-loser myths.
8 min read
Pets, boundaries, and living together
Emerging evidenceLove for pets or a problem for the couple: where is the line?
How pets affect relationships: research on closeness and conflict, exotic-pet care, and the difference between strong attachment and animal hoarding.
8 min read
Education, respect, and compatibility
Emerging evidenceOne has a PhD, the other finished high school: can the relationship work?
Different education levels in a relationship: research on separation, potential conflicts, and practical questions about respect, careers, money, and children.
8 min read
Quick dates · slower conclusions
Emerging evidenceSpeed dating: can five minutes tell you who is right for you?
What research says about speed dating: initial attraction, real follow-up, choice overload, and practical questions that do not turn a date into an interview.
8 min read
Remarriage and a fresh start
Emerging evidenceThird Marriage: A Fresh Start or the Same Story with Someone New?
Can a third or fourth marriage work? Research on remarriage, misleading divorce statistics, and practical questions before another wedding.
8 min read
Appearance, autonomy, and support
Emerging evidenceOne More Operation and I’ll Like Myself? Cosmetic Surgery and Relationships
Wanting a change versus body dysmorphic disorder: research on cosmetic surgery, clinical assessment, and questions about support within a couple.
8 min read
Separation, a shared home, and boundaries
Limited evidenceSeparated but Still Living Together: A Compromise or Limbo?
Why former partners share a home after a breakup: research, housing costs, children, attachment, and questions about boundaries and moving out.
8 min read
Money as a couple · rules and double standards
Emerging evidence“My money is mine, your money is ours”: agreement or double standard?
When one partner pays for shared life and the other keeps their income: research, hidden risks and three detailed budgets at different income levels.
8 min read
Your first appointment · support without shame or pressure
Professional guidanceYour first sex therapy or couples counseling appointment: what to expect
A plain-language first-visit guide: questions, medical examinations versus talk therapy, privacy, preparation, professional credentials and warning signs.
8 min read
United States · divorce and legal help
Official legal sourcesHow to choose a divorce lawyer: the right fit, not the loudest fighter
License checks, relevant experience, billing, mediation and questions for a first US divorce-lawyer consultation. No promises of winning everything.
7 min read
United States · prenups and independent advice
Official legal sourcesHow to choose a prenup lawyer: a shared agreement, independent advice
Choosing a US prenup lawyer: independent representation, asset disclosure, timing, fees and questions to ask before signing.
7 min read
United States · finding the right legal help
Official legal sourcesPostnups, children, property and moving: which lawyer does your family need?
Identify the legal task: postnups, parenting, property, inheritance or immigration. A US guide to questions for choosing the right professional.
7 min read
United States · infidelity, divorce and the law
Official legal sourcesCan cheating be punished in the US? Adultery, divorce and common myths
Adultery and US law: criminal provisions, divorce grounds, spousal support, property, custody and prenup penalties. State examples and common misconceptions.
9 min read
Work, money and time together
Limited evidenceFamily-friendly careers: what jobs and divorce statistics really tell us
Which jobs leave room for a relationship? Research on occupations, divorce and unpredictable schedules, with practical discussion questions for couples.
8 min read
Children and parenting
Choose your situation and questions →Before having children
Emerging evidenceBefore a baby: what should we agree on?
Night waking, money, careers, and family help: questions for couples considering parenthood.
6 min read
Already raising children
Emerging evidenceOne says no, the other says yes: agreeing on parenting
Discuss rules, screens, discipline, and workload without asking a child to referee the adults.
6 min read
A child from a previous relationship
Emerging evidenceYour partner has a child: what role are you ready to take?
Care, money, house rules, and the other parent: conversations before moving in together.
6 min read
Parenting after separation · United States
Official legal sourcesOne Child, Two Homes: How 50/50 Co-Parenting Works
Week-on/week-off and other 50/50 schedules, custody decisions, child support, taxes and relocation in the US. Research and practical questions for parents.
10 min read
Prenup preparation
Steps, costs, and questions for independent legal advice. Educational preparation, not a ready-to-sign agreement.
Open preparation and free worksheets →Prenup · the first conversation
Official legal sourcesHow to bring up a prenup without an ultimatum
Discuss a prenup without pressure: protection for both people, independent advice, and time to decide.
4 min read
Prenup · cost
Official legal sourcesWhat does a prenup cost in the United States?
Dated examples of online and attorney pricing, potential extras, and questions for a written quote.
4 min read
Prenup · default rules
Official legal sourcesWhat if we marry without a prenup?
No agreement does not mean no rules: property, debt, and support questions for counsel.
4 min read
Prenup · care and careers
Official legal sourcesOne earns, one cares for the family: what should we discuss?
Career breaks, access to money, and financial-security questions for independent counsel.
4 min read
Prenup · international couples
Official legal sourcesA prenup when moving countries: questions before the wedding
Language, residence, overseas assets, and independent advice for international couples.
4 min read
Already married: postnup
Open the separate after-wedding path →Postnup · after the wedding
Official legal sourcesAlready married: what is a postnup, and what can you discuss?
Agreements after marriage, how they differ from prenups and everyday plans, preparation questions, and budgeting for independent legal advice.
5 min read
United States · finding the right legal help
Official legal sourcesPostnups, children, property and moving: which lawyer does your family need?
Identify the legal task: postnups, parenting, property, inheritance or immigration. A US guide to questions for choosing the right professional.
7 min read
Adults only · consent first
Sexual compatibility without guessing or pressure
Research-informed articles about attraction, different desire levels, consent, and the boundary between a refusal and relationship control. Read first, then compare expectations privately.
Start the private conversationConsent and influence
Emerging evidenceA boundary or a punishment: when does sex become a tool of control?
How to distinguish the right not to want sex from a persistent pattern of using intimacy as a reward, punishment, or leverage.
8 min read
Different desire
Established evidenceI want sex more often than you do: can different desire levels work?
Why matching frequency is not required for compatibility—and when a desire gap becomes a persistent source of pain.
8 min read
Attraction before marriage
Emerging evidenceA good partner—but no desire: can attraction appear after marriage?
Why respect, safety, and financial reliability are not the same as sexual desire—and what to discuss before marriage.
9 min read
Intimacy without a performance test
Emerging evidenceFemale orgasm: is it true that only 30% of women experience it?
What female orgasm statistics actually measure: penetration, partnered intimacy, common myths, and research—without shame or pressure.
7 min read
Evidence before judgment
Research people hesitate to ask about
Provocative questions, careful answers. Every article separates what a study actually found from interpretation and openly marks weak or emerging evidence.
Status, attraction, and power
Emerging evidenceThe trophy wife marriage: what research says about age and money
Do age-gap and beauty-for-status marriages last? What studies can—and cannot—tell us, plus questions about attraction, financial independence, and power.
9 min read
Limited evidence · sexuality
Limited evidenceDo lap dancers really earn more while ovulating?
What the famous study on cycle timing and tips actually found—and why it should not become a myth about women’s behavior.
7 min read
Emerging evidence · trust
Emerging evidenceCan someone with a history of sex work build a stable relationship?
What research says about trust, disclosure, jealousy, and boundaries—without stigma and without pretending work history never matters.
8 min read
Emerging evidence · digital boundaries
Emerging evidenceIs camming or paid intimate content cheating?
Why a job title cannot answer the question and which concrete boundaries a couple needs to define for themselves.
7 min read