1
How do you define the relationship now?
Casual, exclusive, and committed relationships may mean different things to each person.
Clarify expectations
Relationship compatibility questions
Compatibility is not a single score. It consists of specific areas where expectations align, differ, or are still undecided. A useful question does not deliver a verdict; it reveals the next conversation.
2
Have you agreed on exclusivity?
Clarify dating, intimacy, apps, and messaging boundaries with other people.
3
Do you expect to live together?
Discuss timing, expenses, personal space, and the possibility of maintaining separate homes.
4
Is marriage a shared goal?
Distinguish “maybe someday” from an actual long-term intention.
5
Do you want children?
This difference is difficult to offset with alignment in unrelated areas.
6
What role does physical intimacy play?
Discuss needs without entitlement and with unconditional respect for consent.
7
How much independence does each person need?
Friends, travel, free time, finances, and digital privacy all matter.
8
What does care look like?
Words, time, practical help, touch, and financial support may carry different weight.
How to use these questions
- Do not force identical answers.
- Mark the topics that need more specificity.
- Pay attention to willingness to discuss differences.
Answer separately, then compare.
No account is required. Neither person sees the other’s answers before finishing.
Choose a relationship formatEducational conversation prompts only. They are not a validated psychological test, therapy, legal advice, or a legal agreement.